One of the greatest things about humanity is that even though on the surface we may some similarities in which we can superficially grouped together, at an individual level we are so much more complex and unique in our background and experiences that shape our perspective on every aspect of our place in the world and the decisions we make.

If we want to separate ourselves from a superficial group and operate on a more independent and individualistic basis then it’s important that we gain an understanding and awareness of who we are.

Some people call this “finding yourself” and travel to remote destinations to spend time with nature or other unfamiliar surroundings to try and a new perspective on the world, both internally and externally. Other people take up a variety of person centred self development courses at a group or individual level. However there are things you can do quite simply to begin figuring yourself out.

One way of doing this is by mapping out the layers of your life. As I mentioned at the start of this article we are all unique so the important aspects of each of us are totally different, yet they can all be separated into layers.

Each layer will spend a different amount of time in a prominent position in the course of a day, a week or a year, so as each of these things appear in our awareness we can start to build the map of our layers.

For instance, there might be an issue that lies fairly dormant most of the time but occasionally comes to the fore in either a positive or negative way. This layer would be placed towards the bottom of your map.

These layers can often be linked to emotions so we could use those as a starting point in building our map. If you feel stressed a lot of the time then there could be one or more reasons causing that stress, each of these reasons would be their own layer and you would place them higher or lower on your map in terms of how often they’re prominent. In the same way the generally positive feelings might take up most of your time, in which case it would sit near or at the top of your map.


Once you have a basic view of the main aspects of your life then you could start to track the occasions when there are spikes in each layer when that issue and connected emotion rises to the surface or becomes prominent and possibly combines with another layer.

This layer map will help you to become aware of what’s going on for you at any one moment and also help you to focus on finding ways to move the negative layers further down your map or removing them entirely, then allowing the more positive layers to take more of the prominent positions for most of the time.

As I said earlier this is something that you can do yourself, but if you’d like to have support and guidance in creating your map then book a session or more with me by going to this page.